I’m writing this from the library of the Oheka Castle on Long Island. The Gatsby-like remain is utilisation of our 31st marriage ceremony anniversary; a particular agency of commemorating a particular event.
What I’ve learned inward 31 years of matrimony is that relationships don’t remain particular unless you lot rear their specialness. Relationships built on the neediness of each fellow member are then self absorbed that partners cannot genuinely perceive the specialness of the other. But specialness, in 1 trial perceived, has to remain visible to remain alive. As I’ve alluded inward a dissimilar context, honey doesn’t die–it has to hold out killed. And what kills honey every bit much every bit abhor is disuse. Marriages locomote then routine that they no longer remain special.
Hence castles in addition to warm cocktail toasts in addition to snuggling inward bed alongside purring cats you’ve rescued. It’s utilisation of what makes life special–and interesting–and worthwhile.
The same lesson holds for careers. Once they locomote routine, they locomote jobs. If you’re non learning in addition to developing–if you’re non challenged in addition to stimulated–you eventually autumn out of honey alongside your life’s work. You’re close probable to thrive inward matrimony past times staying inward love. You’re close probable to thrive inward trading past times staying infatuated alongside markets. It’s non plenty to honey what you lot do. You convey to actively locomote along that honey alive. That’s what leads to 31 years of fulfillment.
Further Reading: The Spouse of a Trader